Lift Your Feet !
Today I want you to observe this swing with me. You see how Ms. Perdy goes up and down, up and down? This is the natural course of events with movement on a swing, unless you're hanging still.
Now who would get on a swing and want to hang still? Not swing an inch? I tell you some folks do! They are so afraid of being moved that they stubbornly cling to the space that they're in! They fear that someone might budge them an inch so they subbornly plant their little feet firmly into the ground, therefore they can't swing at all!
Some of these folks identify themselves as 'master of their own life', the sole one in control of it. They ascribe to others around them such terrific powers of control you'd think they see themselves as a Tiny Tim marinette and everyone else as powerful as King Kong who are pulling their strings. In actuality this person is most like Baby Hewey. He sits there in a stubborn ball, arms and legs crossed, jaw clenched tight, teeth set and typically with a bit protruding lower lip in a pout. You can't budge him. You can't approach him.
Look at the swing. See, when he lifts his legs she pushes him forward, then back he comes and she pushes him again. Soon he's flying in the air! The lesson of the swing is this: when you overcome your fear of being pushed and allow your playmate to nudge you, you just might find that instead of the being held back like you so fear they're actually helping you get what you want - you're flying!
But there's a trick to this. First YOU must move TOWARDS them. If you plant your feet or pull away you'll end up sitting there alone.
Warmth, empathy, truthfulness, love - an expressed desire for closeness - typically instills a confidence in relationship that brings out the best in a partner. Put those feet up!
Now who would get on a swing and want to hang still? Not swing an inch? I tell you some folks do! They are so afraid of being moved that they stubbornly cling to the space that they're in! They fear that someone might budge them an inch so they subbornly plant their little feet firmly into the ground, therefore they can't swing at all!
Some of these folks identify themselves as 'master of their own life', the sole one in control of it. They ascribe to others around them such terrific powers of control you'd think they see themselves as a Tiny Tim marinette and everyone else as powerful as King Kong who are pulling their strings. In actuality this person is most like Baby Hewey. He sits there in a stubborn ball, arms and legs crossed, jaw clenched tight, teeth set and typically with a bit protruding lower lip in a pout. You can't budge him. You can't approach him.
Look at the swing. See, when he lifts his legs she pushes him forward, then back he comes and she pushes him again. Soon he's flying in the air! The lesson of the swing is this: when you overcome your fear of being pushed and allow your playmate to nudge you, you just might find that instead of the being held back like you so fear they're actually helping you get what you want - you're flying!
But there's a trick to this. First YOU must move TOWARDS them. If you plant your feet or pull away you'll end up sitting there alone.
Warmth, empathy, truthfulness, love - an expressed desire for closeness - typically instills a confidence in relationship that brings out the best in a partner. Put those feet up!
posted by Zona at 11:44 AM
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